RELATIONSHIP
ADVICE WHEN YOU ARE DATING
"There
are simple tips that arm you with relationship advice
when you are dating that gives you a fighting chance
at long-term relationship success." - Monte Jamison,
Relationship Guide
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When you are dating, be yourself and know yourself
- Be yourself: If the person you
are trying to impress with fake values and accomplishments
does not appreciate the real you, they will not respect
you enough to let you "grow into them" anyway.
Know yourself: Know who YOU are and what
you need in order to be fulfilled. Once you know who
you are and what you need, you can fill those needs
with a person who possesses the qualities you find
necessary.
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Find common ground when you are dating -
get to know someone as a person before considering
exclusive dating. Identify each other's core values
and interests, and search for things that are in line
with how you think and feel about life.
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When you are dating, know your own emotional readiness
- If you are only emotionally ready for casual
dating, do not let yourself fall into something more
serious too soon. People who have been divorced or
hurt by love identify with this best. Patience is
like gold in relationships. Take small steps toward
deeper emotions only when you are ready.
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Do not project past mistakes on future partners
when you are dating - Each day
is a new opportunity to leave the past behind. You
can not change things that happened or the mistakes
you or others made. Start each encounter with a new
person with a clean slate, and respect the person
in front of you instead of comparing them to people
and situations you have been in before.
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Learn to read dating body language -
If your date is squirming in their seat, checking
their watch, or watching other people having more
fun, it might be time to say goodnight. Do not be
discouraged. There will always be opportunities for
a relationship with someone else.
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Always be polite when you are dating -
Show up (or be ready) for your date on time,
open doors, be polite, dress well. Take the time to
invest in the success of the relationship by starting
off right.
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The best relationship advice is to keep it simple
- For some, dating is an unpleasant
experience, regardless of the outcome. Expectations
are high, but the fact is they should not be. Keeping
things simple is a great way to really get to know
someone. Meet for lunch or go for a walk. Then when
you get there, be yourself.
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Use the relationship advice of friends and family
wisely - Too often, less confident
daters turn to friends and relatives, for advice on
the "who, what, where, when, and why" of
the dating game. There is something to be said for
going with your natural instincts and making your
own way. Use common sense and you will be okay.
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Do not settle for less -
Respect yourself enough to avoid "throwaway"
relationships, just to be "involved" with
another human being.
A
final word... Remember this relationship
advice when you are dating: just as Rome was not built
in a day, you should not expect your relationship
to be either. The best advice is to take things slow,
be yourself, know yourself, use common sense, and
keep it simple.
For
more great dating advice, read my book now. In its
pages you will find the secrets to finding love and
how to achieve a lifetime of happiness with your lifetime
partner.
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